Two generations and to resolve the cognitive gap ( 7 )

Parents how to deal with emotions the way the gap between the two generations to promote the relationship between the children ? Village Vision will continue and we talk about teachers and emotional management related topics .

 

Quarter of the teachers in the past with some parents declared the interaction , I often find that parents how to do it for emotional management , there are still some places do not understand . For example, the time when the child emotionally unstable , well-behaved , we must accept their emotions. Many parents would say he has not , and I accept his emotions , that does not mean he agreed to do is correct it? Sometimes a child will be courtesy of the parents are not yelling , should I let him so no manners? Do not criticize him? Not angry? Many parents are troubled by this very . I once met a mother is asked how his son would not get up the morning , you ask what more , he not only did not thank you , but still very angry . Is this time I could not temper it? I would also like to do emotional management? He soon going to be late , then how can I do?

Emotional management objective? Emotional management is basically a child when he accepted a state of mind , does not mean that he was agreed to do is right, but we distinguish between right and wrong things to stay relatively stable in the time we talk about emotions , not All the time to talk about emotional instability . You must have a prepared mind , he does not get up and was going to be late , it is not right , he needs to adjust his sleep schedule , but how to change him, we need to talk some other time . Now when his emotional instability , it is recommended parents to him to taste the consequences of being late , do not call me when you up when you go to school. Perhaps parents feel that whatever he was late he had , he does not care , it is not more dangerous? If I do not put his name up again , then were late yesterday he did not care , that he was not accustomed to after getting broken?

I would like to remind parents once again , we do not allow this matter regardless , but now is not time management . You wait for him tonight after school , you take from him the consequences of the school , the school will have some records , such as late a few times you have to deduct some of what the score . These are to stay until the evening when we all calm , no mood swings , you must be as soon as possible , but certainly not in the mood of the moment deal . So I want you in particular to clarify the explanations that it is the emotional acceptance is at the time, emotional time that you let him know that you vent the future , parents will not be your anger . But this thing so we all calmed down later, we must deal with , I will not let this thing does not handle and then again tomorrow , do not wait until tomorrow morning and come back processing, you must enter the same evening to rational communication.

Emotions after the next step is to deal with through rational communication , between our different ideas and practices . This is our first time dealing with the generation gap is a very important part. If you know the importance of emotional management , and can tell , you do not worry about. You had to accept the child's emotions , does not mean you agree with his wrong behavior , so after this emotional thing , the next step to prepare your child to do with rational communication. This part of the communication must be rational for parents to understand some of the important elements of communication , not only when you communicate when it is speech , eye movements in your body language itself is also a kind of communication .

Rational communication , it involves the communication of our understanding of how many parents often feel that we communicate with the children is the discipline with a child one-way communication is not bidirectional . We must re- learn the meaning of communication , as we know , like the generation gap , what is the purpose of communication , when children learn language , when Ya-Ya , all we hear about them , and then to the school many things that we teach him . Therefore, we have used the mode of communication with children is a lesson type , or a command -style , or authoritarian , it is also one of the reasons creating a generation gap . After the children grew up , a feeling of being respected , that people will ask you , your thoughts do you think? When people ask you how you feel when you feel he would like to hear what I was thinking , that your self-esteem , as well as your own self-confidence was established. Youth are required to be sure that the process of growth , wise parents will often done for the children of some of the good things to be encouraged.

The purpose is to communicate our message not only to each other , but also an exchange of messages a process. He is not one-way communication , communication is two-way , the main goal of communication is the ability to reach each other can share, to reach a consensus . If you reach this goal, then it is not communication, communication rather than through (*^__^*)。 Many parents say, " I say , I do not know about the few times he did not listen , how to use ? with our family son ( daughter) is of no use because I do not know about hundreds of times before . " Then we have to ask your communication is one-way or two-way ? Especially with young people, particularly in dealing with the generation gap , we stress that the two-way exchange of information . Not just that I feel about this, do you think , I know you know we're OK, no, it is necessary a process of discussion , This is called communication .

When we aim to communicate clearly the future , we look at ways of communication . Communication is not only through language and communication are body movements. When a child feeling very unstable , you pat him, do not say anything , he can feel the love my father , my father can accept me and my father knew my situation. In fact, according to psychologists found that 20 percent of communication is through language, 80% is through body movements. A look, you close down the size of the sound , or is that when you are washing a bowl deliberately smashes , which are sending a message out .

 

The art of communication that we 'll never be finished , the expression of each individual method , followed by his side , some things will change, some people can not express in words , he will call you with a number of actions to understand his mood.

If we do not know the parents of children , between you and your spouse may be able to communicate the way you try to figure out , some people just could not speak , but he will use some of the ways , " write . " Sometimes a lot of parents with children with e-mail , or call a different time is not clear on the use of text messaging that are representative of some of the ideas in our hearts , it is complicated to a degree , or that our ability to communicate is limited to a Species level , we see no clear way to express some of our inner thoughts and feelings . Therefore, communication between parents and children above these things , and so on and so we learn from a communication in the art . The first communication is an important objective to achieve mutual understanding to work together to achieve a common goal .

What we normally is the way to communicate with our children ? You may never telling him anything , but your body's movements , has been talking with your child a lot . Do not bother me, I have tired , you may have sent a number of body language, tell your child you are not satisfied with me , though you say I love my child ah , but you have unwittingly sent Some information out . We have not sat down to discuss things , but we have to send some information to our children , and this is the need to pay attention to some of their parents , the next time we talk about how kind words above and children in rational communication.