Ranks the fourth , when I was pregnant , had a maternal age , my husband is also half a century , we are really surprised and delighted by this ! for a long time at home without small children , and that hard work and rearing children sweet , I am Can understand , because I had had three children , boss second child interval of a half years old , her second child and youngest interval of five years, while fourth eldest born, and the youngest a 10 -year-old as much difference . My oldest 2 years old when they quit teaching , his care for the children . My husband and I like around half of children are also enjoying family life, our children have many fond memories of childhood , they like to go home .
In middle age , But Cautious
Even so, some worry we do not know whether it can also be capable of physical ? BABY think we have three older brothers and sisters can help them to have a little BABY will be joined as a member of the family is hoping for another Excited .
In this way, children look forward to the next in our joy was born . Thank God , she is healthy , is the most important of the children born at home , nearly 4,000 grams , as we expected, she was energetic , a great cry , laugh too much , she is fascinated by every move , she is Our pistachios . We take turns taking care of her family , coax her to sleep with her play . Church family on Sundays , but also a bunch of aunts and uncles like BABY hold her, tease her . The child is in so much love , care , attention to grow .
Pistachios into small rebellion
Year-old exploration of the beginning, this small pistachio gradually let the family stunned , laughing . The first laugh is that I - my mother . I often feel exhausted and can not seem to cope her needs.
Every morning she woke up and found other people have gone ( dad brother and sister have gone to work or school ), she would cry, she wanted to go out . I took him to the park , she must return home to play 2-3 hours , not ring true to her heart , she cried . Home I was tired, she was not tired , walk around at home , climbed up and down , fall and get bruises are common. She 's dynamic , do not nap , and Dad can play at night to 10 o'clock .
She was crying , because a significant issue , hungry, crying , tired, crying , tired of crying , wounded cry , discomfort cry , did not agree to her request to cry - . When angry cry , that cry can be really scary , make you think that her accident happened . She cried not once , but got out of hand , half an hour , an hour or even longer. The day, I found that I have to face such a situation several times. She cries slowly become my stress , I am frustrated , I feel like I can not meet her needs .
With the development of language , she became much of a talker , and very will to bargain , the parents challenge authority . She frequently said was : "Why? "" Why do I have to listen to you ? I have to decide ! " I told her to eat candy after dinner , she would accidentally tear a little , told me : "But I am torn right now! "I insisted on closing her up , she and I said : "I like to eat one , leaving it up . " I said: "No ! " she would candy deepened their fling , Burst into tears , or to speak to her saying: 『 Why do I have to listen to you ? I have to do decide ! 』 heart Anjiao I have heard not good , what individual children! actually year-old should Their own decisions !
I was most difficult to understand is that she 's different tune behavior . You told her East , she had just west ; you told her not to , she just wishes . One time we play in the park , her tongue lick the horizontal bar ; I said: "Do not lick , this is not to eat . " Her response was - the more powerful the more licking . I am really good and gas , but also funny , can quickly put her away . An endless stream of small events like this , I think her like a long anti- bone , completely incomprehensible .
Picked up the rod of discipline , parental authority renewal
I never get so frustrated when her mother when ! I know can not leave alone , or wait for him to go to school , my teacher would pick the phone up every day . But I also do not want to act rashly , without handle , injury to a child 's self-esteem , I owe will be greater . I am reminded of Proverbs said: fool bound child's heart, the rod of discipline can fool well rid of ( Qian 22:15 ) . The child is the discipline, but how to enforce it?
Then I heard the Von sister 『 』 how to love your children 's CD, mentioned above, love is the basis of discipline , love enough , discipline to be effective. I believe that we give children enough love , so I follow the practice of Feng sister ; pick a suitable thin bamboo , put it in a conspicuous place at home , I tell my kids , this is our family laws , can help Children to become good boy . All good things her mother told her she did not comply , I will turn this family laws to help her. I said : I will beat you ass three times , to help you keep in mind .
But this too many children in need of discipline , and I want where to begin? the church teaches is the most important character , I would like to respect other people from the start! So I first asked her to be quiet when the whole family together - - painting , playing with toys , can leave the seat , but no matter what must be calm , and not to noisy .
The first opportunity to practice domestic discipline soon came, on the whole family gathering , I met with her a note , make sure she had understood it. But the party has started long before she started pulling tables and chairs , manufactured sound, loud , as if she did not know it - I gave her the opportunity to remind the second to the third , I took her to the room , users Method to force hit her three times ass . She gave a sharp cry , I cry a smaller waiting for her , holding her, telling her family laws to help her become a good boy , so she knew how to respect others.
Out the door , meeting also the end , but she also learned to quiet - the need for respect for our gathering . I remember that from the beginning to use domestic discipline , she really played only twice , next , I just put on a high domestic discipline ( the reach of children ), the obvious place , they received a good warning effect . Later found that she began to test the parent 's bottom line, I need only mention two words 』 『 domestic discipline , she started screaming : " I do not want domestic discipline ! I do not want spanking ! "Her behavior really bound up .
Set an example to their child sorry
However, this does not mean smooth sailing discipline . I gradually came to realize one thing , I must accept God gave me the baby is a very assertive , temperamental child . Obedience on the other children some of life is easy routine , not easy for her . Therefore, eat, sleep , clean up , organize - these daily chores , I try to relax the restrictions, according to her pace and let her make a decision, this mother and daughter together so that we can live in harmony .
Once she has tantrums , and I upset gas ankle , said she was not loud . Did not think she began to cry, that I bad temper , to apologize to her . My heart feel good and gas , but also funny , really outrageous , obviously she was not unreasonable , but also I apologize to her . But I suddenly remembered I was not asked her tantrums on weekdays , after apologizing to people ? I respond to her with a blood gas bad temper , really not a good example. I apologize to her as a role model to begin with it!
So I seriously told her : "little music I'm sorry , I just bad temper , talking very loudly , scared you, you can forgive me? " did not think the child back to me an apology too seriously : "Mom I'm sorry , I Just a bad temper , scared you, you can forgive me? " apology is completed, I picked up this eloquent little guy , came up with a new insight - the original Example is better than precept is so true - this year-old child I normally use to teach her to watch our words and actions of these adults , and she knows what is right and what is wrong , just can not do it . I am a parent , if we can not set a good example , but also how discipline her?
Better than a bad temper
I also asked her: " When your temper , I hope Mom and Dad how to treat you? "she replied : "To say softly slowly ah ! "( this is my usual teaching , really shameful !) was She and I agreed that we should match soft - people angry , I am not angry , I can gentle toward others , I won the ( strength of her personality well , like most win !) .
Later often raise my voice one , there came a sharp voice : "Mummy, are you angry , I am very gentle, I win , you lose . "After this reminder , I own anger More alert , and that children are slowly learning to control anger .
Once she and her friend Wei Yu nursery know quarrel , complain that her bad temper, Wei Yu , and I can gently remind her . She said: " Why is she a bad temper , I have to tender ? "I said: "The more powerful because of the gentle ah ! You see, many people will throw a tantrum , but to be better than his temper , to tender , it should Very powerful , than the martial arts who was even more severe才行. " (I explained to her home , Proverbs 16:32 is not easily angry , and beat the Warriors , had to overcome the heart , than the walls capture people. God That the more severe temper Oh !)
While no amount of teaching , this year , small children or inevitably a temper , I think emotions will be her life 's lessons . I want to help her early knowledge of God , let her know how great will depend on the Holy Spirit , better than a bad temper .
Love never fails
Now every morning to go to school , we almost always play the same opera. 7:00 sharp, her to the bed Jiaoren up , she did not respond . Mom began to scratch her itch , scratch where miles , where the read : " belly Qichuang La , "" Face Qichuang La Face , "" feet foot Qichuang La . " to see a smile on her face , ticklish to reduce them Mom began to cry: " Little Music Qichuang La . "
And then dressed . She lay in bed , eyes closed , lifted his foot , I put on her pants . She generally does not feel right , they shouted : " uncomfortable , uncomfortable - . " side of hard kicks, kicked in the pants ; time mom -get -for- one , pull her up , or he began to toot your mouth sour .
Then she will be shameless to say : " hold me, hold me! " and then the same grip as the koala mother , only to cling to her mother . Then she would say : " pat , pat ! "Mom was making her hand back , like a child , like coax BABY . " Kiss , kiss ! " kiss the left cheek , right cheek kiss . Then took her to sit down at the table eating breakfast .
This set up the ceremony about 15 minutes, is the parent-child interaction , and finally adjusted out . This morning we both do not get angry , you can successfully get out and go to school .
Changing the face of a temper , temperamental child , I always have heart preparation . When I was overwhelmed , they can always seek the Holy Spirit 's wisdom and help , because the child is created by God , He knows best . I often asked God to have His vision is to help children to appreciate the valuable qualities , enjoy her candid and creative . Even God will pour his share of love never fails me, so I can face the children, often joyful , keep love , acceptance , forgiveness ... ...
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